TrentC, He has said since before Thanksgiving when we had a blow-up that he would have no contact with her until after he moves out after the holidays. I made it very clear that if he wants to have contact with her he must move out ASAP. Is transparency required if he has been very clear he is moving out after the holidays?
He gets a choice; drop OW completely and commit to working things out with you (which includes transparency) or he can take a hike and go live with her NOW. Why the heck are you letting him stay if he has every intention of moving out to be with her? What is being nice to him getting you?
He should come home to find his stuff on the front lawn (boxes and bags optional).
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
