Rise Above This

[SoCo]

Well, let's see. Update. Haven't been posting much due to LIFE!
Ex is still deep in the craziness. Still no job. Still owes me $$$ and getting deeper. He seems fine with being unemployed and sitting around or going camping and hunting with relatives and tinkerbell. She also has no job, so they have lots of time.

He has not yet started any type of counseling or the anger mangement that was court ordered b/c of the assault and protective order. The only reason we dismissed the PO was b/c he was ordered to go through this counseling. I'm trying to figure out who to talk to about him not following through on that.

He is becoming toxic to my children and traumatizes them when they are with him. Constantly yelling and screaming and acting crazy. Also doesn't watch them properly, like letting my 4yo jump on a large trampoline with no nets or anything UNSUPERVISED outside, and letting my 9yo shoot bb guns UNSUPERVISED. They eat crap and only crap while there. My son has told me that his dad is "crazy" and that's just the way he is. He threw such a fit and made such a scene with them this past weekend it was awful. My S had an accident Sat. night while sleeping which he NEVER does, he's 9. I told ex he was stressing them out and causing emotional distress. He truly doesn't care. He badmouths me all the time and tells them crap that is totally untrue. He told them last weekend that they might never see him again. They have both mentioned that several times to me.

I have to figure out what to do from here. I don't really have any concrete evidence of what is considered "abuse" by the courts. Just emotional trauma. It's a hard call. I don't want to drag them through a huge horrible battle, but he is not good for them right now. I just don't know what to do.

I know that I am VERY uncomfortable with the facty that they have to spend 11 days with him after Christmas.