Is this the end of my marriage?

[Gnosis]

W responds that how did she know that she had the stuff if nobody would tell her.

[quote=P17]W asked IM if she could drop it off for her at her work. <snip> IM responds to her that she would not be in our town and that she could drop it off at another store <snip>

Good for IM!

W responds back - she can't get to the other town and could IM just give the stuff back to me for me to drop it off at her work.

Boo f'g hoo...

She finishes at 5pm so I could drop it off after then if I didn't want to see her.

Are you nuts? Stop giving in to her demands. Your W is a spoiled brat who is used to everyone bending over backwards so she can get her way.

IGNORE HER

I should laugh it off but I'm not feeling great today.

So get off your a$$ and go do something that will make you feel great. Sorry P17, I don't have patience for self-pity.

But I know that I need to have no contact from her to bitch, moan, cry and heal about this whole thing.

Darned straight.

If you read the messages above in that context, I think to myself why is she STILL not getting it?

Because she knows how to push your buttons and keep you dangling on a string. She knows you'll take her back. No matter what she does P17 is going to be around. So she's free to experiment, party it up and enjoy her cake while you sit around and mope.

I have told her twice now that I don't want any contact other than to discuss reconciliation.

Its time to 180. Take the possibility of R off her agenda.

why won't she respect my wishes?

Brace yourself... Because she views you as a pathetic, weak human being whom she does not have an ounce of respect for.

I know you want to reconcile, but here's the hard facts. Let's say tomorrow her OM skips town... within a week she'll be knocking on your door because she knows you have no options available and will take her back. You welcome her back and reward her for her crap behavior... thereby giving her a license to walk out again whenever she feels like it.

I'm with RobX in situations like this. i.e. Become a hardass. Call her out on her crap. Kick her to the curb and if she comes crawling back make her work for it -- HARD.