feel like giving up - talk to me!

[lost1234]

my h NEVER texts me back...i have only tried a handful of times and got no reply so i quit.

LL,
i really dont know what is worse...having them be t home or not...sometimes all i want is the security in knowing he is here at the end of the days...
others i am not happy, but not unhappy that he isnt cause i can do whatever i want once the kids are asleep!

[luvless]

gosh lost that's so mean your H doesn't respond...just so rude!

I wouldn't put up with that for long - it gets to me too much

I'm sorry we are both here...

[mindfull]

Hi Luv!!!

How's it going w/him home tonight?

[luvless]

hey mind..

thanks for asking - i get him very late at airport so will only talk to him on way home then off to bed...which is a good thing.

it really was nice having him gone - i needed him away from me

[luvless]

I'm just checking in. I'm here in limbo feeling sick to my stomach waiting for my H to WA. I think he may be having an EA and slight possible it's turned physical. This is from past behaviors that are coming up again and make more sense. I know he is in a MLC but there may be someone else. This is why he is not trying to "fix" our situation.

I want to know and get it over with. I'm not good at this. I can't sit by and allow this to continue. I feel like sh*t.

Damn me for caring!

[Kemper]

Hey luvless,

You need to focus on yourself and try as hard as it is to not put your energy into something or someone that you can't control. I know it is hard and limbo sucks but the more positive you become and more you focus on yourself the better you will feel.

I hope that when you read this you can work on removing any negative thoughts/feelings and replace them with positive thoughts/feelings. Do something for yourself today.

[luvless]

thanks Kemp - I'm going to lunch with a friend and I really am trying trust me. This is so hard right now.

I feel l am sinking but I know it's not for long. I'm trying..I am.

[TrentC]

I'm just checking in. I'm here in limbo feeling sick to my stomach waiting for my H to WA. I think he may be having an EA and slight possible it's turned physical.

If he's in an affair, then waiting for him to wake up is pointless. He's got what he wants right now.

If you can work on finding a way to bust the affair -- can you find out for sure? Is the suspected OW married? -- then do so.

Or, you can go for a LRT; throw him out, tell him you're looking to file for D, and move on. Maybe, just maybe, that will snap him out of the fog.

But your resentment is building because you're just sitting there waiting for him to come around. That's not healthy.

[Kemper]

Glad to hear you are having lunch with a friend. Enjoy that time and the person you are spending it with.

I know it is hard and I know you are trying but the negative thoughts/feelings just wear you out. Look at lunch as a positive and be positive during it. Nobody wants to hang out with a negative person. Again, I know it is hard but you can do it.

[luvless]

I hear you Trent - I know it's not healthy what I'm doing to myself but it's a process I have to go through to get myself back up ya know?

I need to find out that's for sure. I can't let it go on if this is what he's doing. I guess learning your spouse has no regard for your feelings is the worse part of this. I gotta get angry! this sad crap does me no good!