Are you saying to set some firm boundaries about what I want, and lay them down?
Yes, you should have boundaries in all of your relationships based on what you want, or rather who you are. Often, one party to a relationship will let the other define who he/she is--i.e. I am so busy trying to mold myself in such a way that my spouse will approve that I lose sight of the core values and principles that made me who I am.
So, what are your core values and principles? Who is Dr. Norseman and what does he want to teach his boys to be? Answer those questions, and your boundaries of personal integrity will become clearer.
On a practical level, I see you worrying far too much about what your wife thinks about MC. What do you want out of MC--not what do you want your wife to do, but what does Norseman hope to acheive that is consistent with his core values and principles.
And darnit! See an attorney! Wayward spouses have been known to be unpredictable and irresponsible. If it were just you wanting to submit to your wife's whims, that would be one thing. Those boys depend on you and need somebody (you) to look out for their future.
