I think you should let him know that you have quite a few needs/conditions that you need him to meet. I am sure he would be overwhelmed to focus on them all at one time. Pick an easy one like wearing his ring to symbolize his commitment to your marriage to start.
I would love to send some snow to you but would melt once it got to Europe. You are always welcome to visit.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory