OK Cutter...if too much has been done, then why not divorce? Why do you want her to file first? I am asking out of sincerity.
I never said too much has been done. Like all of us here. There is lots to repair. I still love my wife very much. I also dislike her very much at the same time. She broke me. Completely. But when I got back up. The love was still there. I have put the effort in to save this marriage. I also put the effort in to divorce. She did nothing. I am the one who wrote the seperation papers out. I am the one who is working on the house to sell it. I am the one dealing with real estate agents, and everything else associated with all this. She does nothing. Just lives this entitled life she feels she has. So I said. F that. She wants this divorce, then she can put the effort in for it. I am going to do nothing. Sit back and let her do some work for a change. So far she has done nothing but remove her clothes and shoes and pays half the mortgage and bills. She is lazy, selfish and spiteful. Why? Because I stopped playing her games. I stepped out of her script.
The first thing I read on this forum. The very first thing I read was this.
Originally Posted By: courts0818
And I'm tired of this lame excuse people give about not being happy - too bad! You made a commitment, stick by it. Do EVERY last thing you can to save your marriage. You owe it to yourself, your spouse, your family, your children and God.
Courts0818 words of wisdom made me realize that I was not alone, not crazy for wanting to repair the marriage. But time moves on. And so do I.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
