Your past with your H wasn't a sham even though him denying it makes it feel so. You were there and you know how you felt and how he felt at certain points in time...do't argue with him-its pointless...its part of the alien abduction.
I really think he has to keep telling himself that he didn't love me for years so that he believes it. He isn't a very good actor so I doubt he could lie to me for years and years.
I am trying to be his friend which is hard when I want more. We actually hung out a lot more when he was with the ow then we do now that he dumped her. Sometimes I think he is afraid to hang out with me now that he is "free".
