Concentrate on 7yrs ago and how you felt when you held your D. How you felt about your H then too. The love you had between you, and the joy at the life you had created together in your D.
Sandycay said:
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I now know there is nothing I can do to save my marriage. It takes two, not one. My H is not the one anynmore.
This is the problem that most DBer's encounter eventually and this seems to be where you are at Kalni.
For those who it seemed to 'work' at restoring their M, Both parties showed true conviction. It won't work without it. Trust etc. can follow, but you got to have good intention and faith. Your faith seems to be lacking due to fear of being hurt again - a very natural predicament. However, nothing ventured nothing gained. For all the ups and downs I have had, I know that I don't want to be without a SO in my life, and someone else might do something just as bad to me hurt wise again. At least I know my H's quirks and foibles.
Get those passwords etc. and see if you can give it a go - otherwise you will always wonder - won't you?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
