It takes 4 years more to get a divorce here - you see the last 8 months have been full of comments about the finances, the business(except the last 2 months but now the comments are back) - he said on Friday to me that I have been useless over the last 4 years - you know how hard this is to hear over and over again - sometimes I wonder if that's the reason he hasn't gotten a lawyer yet so he can keep the direct contact going to put me down - I just know that one day I have to go NC with him -it will make him mad but then I won't care anymore.
