This part of divorce is a business transaction. Treat is as such. Screw the principle, toss the anger and romanticism aside. Call the lawyer for a consultation reviewing what's offered and follow his input. He is one of the best lawyers in the state. Exercise your rights in a forthright, non nonsense manner. This is no place for emotion, playing the 'nice guy' in not touching her 401(k).
Are you playing "Go Fish" or poker? Know the value of the cards you have, the risk you're willing to take and when to bluff. And leave your 'tells' behind.
*hugs*
PS.. It's a common practice to have a lawyer review what's offered to assure the division is fair and equitable. Do it.
