I’m having second thoughts about my plan. I don’t know OM’s wife from Adam. I don’t know how she’ll react…and she may just react. She has money. What if she’s the vengeful type and sees my W as the predator? “I’ll ruin that b*tch!” She could do it. I don’t want a sh*t storm if I can avoid it. I can always keep that card in my pocket.

On the upside, I’m getting a little unexpected windfall of cash tomorrow. When I started this thread, $500 might as well have been five million. But now I have little cash. On Saturday, I contacted a very close and trusted friend who stood by me during our first separation. We’ve been talking since the S but I leveled with him. I couldn’t stand it. I had to talk to somebody. At first he played the devil’s advocate, “Let’s not be too hasty”. But after telling him the whole story he believes me and will help me. Our bank accounts (business and personal) are transparent to both of us online. So my buddy will order the tasty little covert GPS tracker that I found online for me.

Tomorrow morning I’m getting up at the ungodly hour of 5:00 a.m. to drive by BIL’s house and confirm that W no longer lives there. I know that she rarely leaves the house any earlier than 8:00 a.m. and Wednesday is a light workday for her. If her car isn’t there, I’ll know I’m right. If I’m right…

I’ve only known about the A for a week and already W has made two major blunders; the cell phone bills and giving away that she has moved without telling me where she is living. I’ve known her for 23 years. She’s not the lying, sneaking, conniving type (one of the reasons I love and married her). In fact, she’s terrible at it.

In I blinding flash of common sense I’ve realized that going “dim”, while doing so on my part, isn’t the best solution here. I need to have friendly chat with W and OM every chance I get. They both think I’m clueless and neither are good liars. She’ll screw up again. They’ll give something away. And now that I’m paying attention and watching like a hawk, I’ll catch it.

Last edited by Norm914; 12/09/09 05:00 AM.
H: 50
W: 48
Married 20 years
Bomb and separation: 9/12/09
A discovered 12/02/09
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