What do I do, then? If we end couples counseling because she isn't willing to give up her lover, how does that help? And, I don't see how I can apply DB tactics in that session coming up on Thursday. Do I just not react? I don't want her to see me upset.
I don't get why she would want to continue after a D. Could you call your C and give a brief explaination of what's going down and see how he plans to guide the session? Don't know if he'll even consider it, but may be worth a try.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
