Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

It would be a nice gesture, but not necessarily the right thing to do.

I tend to agree with awest here. She needs to see the ramifications of what she is doing. If you continue to show up and do tasks for her she won't see the consequence. It most likely won't make an impact on her at all. She's not going to be thinking, "Gee, what a nice thing CTH did for me today. He's such a wonderful man and a great dad. WTH am I thinking." Nope. She's not in a good frame of mind where you are concerned and sees nothing wrong with what she is doing so you might as well hand her the whip to crack on your butt.

Ok, that was rude of me, but I felt I needed to paint a visual picture.

In short, don't do it. She wants a D, she needs to grow up and do all of these things on her own.....now. If this ends in D and you are co-parenting well and there is no lingering animosity, then you can throw in a bonus shoveling or some heavy lifting for her now and then as a goodwill gesture.

Heck, my xh showed up out of the blue Sunday and got all of the Christmas decorations out of my attic for me. Very nice of him. We've been D'd over a year though and haven't had words in about 6 months. Big difference. You're too emotionally invested right now to be doing that.

Got it?