Can you tell by my replies to my own posts that I'm torn here? wow. Anyway, Ive been reading up on Puppy's other posts, and part of my gut agrees with his "bust the affair" philosophy. Here's my latest example:
-Thurs, Thanksgiving-wife has a "shaving" accident in the shower. "oops" she said, "I went a little too far, so I have to take it all off" Whatever. -Black Fri-gone all day, I cant reach her, supposedly at work, returns at 6 with hair in pony tail (she left in work clothes) -Sat-We are at IKEA and I get a text from her lover (!!!!) telling me to pass on a message about a guy at the bank (where she works) whose father died. When I asked who this was contacting me, his exact words were: "Gimme a break, you know this number. Just pass on the message please" Are you friggin kidding me? Wife reacted by saying, "How do you want me to react? there's no right way to do it!"
As you read in my previous post, I asked her to get out of the house this weekend, and we are now separated. I'm not pursuing her, and she's not following through on getting a hotel room (I think she's staying with her lover, who, coincidentally is also getting divorced, three kids, wife moved out...), and she isn't even worrying about the lack of contact with her kids.
So, as I head to our counseling session Thurs, am I simply handing her over to this punk? My man side of my psyche wants to:
-fully OUT the affair at work, including calling his boss, calling her boss, etc -contact his soon to be exwife via facebook -hire a P.I. or start tracking her, etc with GPS... -Hire an attorney -Change the locks on the house so she can't come and go.
However, the other side of me is trying to trust the DB stuff, detach, and take care of myself. Go out with friends, do more MMA training, etc. to get in best shape of my life. Is it worth the energy to blow everything up? Part of me feels that THAT would definitely end my marriage, since I could then be her excuse. She wouldn't feel guilty anymore. As is now, she can't say I've been a bad guy in any way. I mean, you can imagine what I wanted to do when I got that guy's text. Talk about an idiot.
