I think you're on the right track. Put her in the position of having to make a real choice that has undeniable consequences.

I would ignore the multiple texts. I wouldn't be too put out by details (though I have been). At least don't let it seem that you are. Calm, cool, collected.

She seems like she might cave. That's not a promise, just her attitude seems to be that of a kid whose parents just called his/her bluff.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)