With that out of the way I'd like to ask you another question:
If you had a choice would you prefer your WAW be indifferent with you or angry?
From my side, I'd much rather have an angry W... because anger is an emotion and it means there is some feeling left inside the alien. Indifference or apathy is surefire death. Honest confession here... I sometimes push Mrs Gno's buttons on purpose just to check if she's still alive... if you know what I mean. I do that because I know if she can generate that much passion with anger, then the opposite still hold true.
I agree entirely, I much prefer anger. That's why I was so happy at her reaction to my e-mail last week. Clearly I can still invoke some strong feelings in her, and all I did was say I was done with our M, the M she threw away!
My friend the WAW actually has two other friends who are WAWs as well who I talk to. I have quite the team of consultants! Anyway, they also have great anger at their divorced or estranged husbands, and as far as I can tell, it's not always a good thing. The four of us actually had quite the conversation last week about whether you can passionately hate someone you don't love, ignoring violent hatred that is, like for someone who hurt your child or something.
Another story I think about is our former nanny. She is a bit of an emotional wild child (but great with our kids), and she got pregnant from her boyfriend a couple years ago. He immediately dumped her, and she went through the pregnancy and birth alone. She vicerally hated him. She had to bring him to court to try to compel him to pay child support, and she ended up nearly physically attacking him in court, when he implied that she was an unfit mother and that he should get custody of the child. Know what? After her son was about a year old, this young messed up kid finally came around and asked her if he could be involved in his son's life. Pretty soon they were back in love, happy as can be, and are now engaged to be married. When I think about anger, I think about her.
Thanks everyone for sticking with me. I think I'm in for quite a ride.
