It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

I'm thinking of confessing about a one night stand I had w/ a female friend of mine about 5 yrs ago. This is partially due to the fact that I'm fairly sure she had at least an EA, but mostly because I don't want to be the scumbag anymore.

I read all these stories about the lying spouses and I don't want to be that person.

I don't even remember the incident. I blacked out while drinking and woke up after the fact. I never told her because I convinced myself it would damage my W's already low self-esteem. In truth I was a coward.

It will likely quash any bubbling hope of reconciliation, but I don't want to be the lying cheater. I've been thinking seriously about this for the last few days. I also don't want to do this via email or on the phone. I think it should be in person, as I'm very resentful of how much damage she's done w/out ever having the guts to do it in person.