How would he feel if he thought you may really spill the beans about what had been going on?
He would certainly be embarrassed, but overall he doesn't think he did anything wrong. After all, I was the one with confidence issues and needed medication and was c**kblocking with my bad vibes and who didn't speak up so how could he know I wasn't happy about being a swinger, or anything else for that matter? *Certainly the fact that I would avoid meeting couples until and unless he got aggravated about a lack of extra-curricular action wasn't a clue. *My telling him that I felt like a dumb hooker wasn't a clue (I just had a bad attitude and needed to get back out there). *My telling him that it hurt to see him f***ing another woman wasn't a clue (It shouldn't hurt because we agreed that this was OK for us). *My throwing up the first time we were another couple wasn't a clue (Blamed the alcohol. He enjoyed the afterglow while I was sick in the bathroom). *Deciding the night of our first time swinging was a good time to tell me about his infidelity was an act of closeness.
See, not his fault, these were my issues... Not that anyone from his side will ever know those things- they will continue to think he's a sweet guy, so I must have issues... It's not fair, but he's certainly not going to fess up to any of those things.
Sorry- venting.
I don't want to trash him to others, but sometimes I wish other people, especially his family, knew what he was really like.
