Lynn, I can say with certainty my walking away had nothing to do with any third party. Otherwise, if I was 32 and had a 6 year old, I'd be worried that we were married. If you want to take the time to read my posts from last year, I hope they might help you what goes through the mind of a WAW.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
1. Someone I'd never met; 2. Someone he'd met online; 3. Someone of the opposite sex.
Your W doesn't respect you. She's had how many affairs without any consequences?
Respect is HUGE for women. Know what brought back my respect for my H? He dropped a big old bomb on me and called me on my stuff...and pursued an EA. I'd already walked away emotionally, but my H was the one who had the nerve to call B.S. I'd lost all respect for him as he was always catering to me and walking on eggshells, nervous Nellie-like. It turned me way off.
And how do you know she's going to meet his parents?
Boundaries. Listen to these guys~they understand how women respond.
Are you willing to hold on to your R even with your W continuing to have affairs? Is this what you're saving? Why?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Your W doesn't respect you. She's had how many affairs without any consequences?
Respect is HUGE for women. Know what brought back my respect for my H? He dropped a big old bomb on me and called me on my stuff...and pursued an EA. I'd already walked away emotionally, but my H was the one who had the nerve to call B.S. I'd lost all respect for him as he was always catering to me and walking on eggshells, nervous Nellie-like. It turned me way off.
And there you have it, Lynn. From a WOMAN no less. What do you think about what she's written?
Your road map is there in front of you. Only question now is, do you follow it?
