X responded to my short note about paying bills next Thursday with an OK tone email "OK".
Then he gave me a heads up that he would be at the community meeting tomorrow, that I was planning on going to. I figured he would be there, but didn't see his name on the email list, so thought maybe...
But he will be there, and I am--pretty sure--perfectly prepared to be in the same large room with lots of mutual acquaintances/friends, most of whom should know the sitch by now.
Now...is there any reason the OW would come to this meeting? it is about revitalizing downtown. I guess if X has got her well-involved in his life, he would want her to be part of that.
Am I ready to see them together? at a semi-social event, where it is all about the COMMUNITY--that he and I so often said "we are so lucky to be such a part of this town!"
I could write back: Solo? Cause I'm planning on going too.
But I'm pretty sure I shouldn't. I can get a girlfriend to walk in with me.
To add to it, tomorrow night is a rescue shift, so I can't drown my anxiety/terror/sadness in a drink afterwards, should the OW be there.
Advice? Tell me to buck up? Gotta see them together sometime!
Aahhhhh!
avermont
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
