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Your not his parent. If there are zero financial penalities to you. Let him figure it out.

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I am having a bit of a thought, though I think in the end I agree with cutterbug. By only question is whether there are similar things you may be wanting from him. In which case it might make sense to keep things a bit more cooperative for now.

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You could always send him the name of the bank that the loan is through along with the phone number and he can call them and find out. Also you could send him the name of who yall order contacts through again with the phone number and he can ask them as well.

Up to you,

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I decided to be the bigger person, especially since he told me to "kiss his a$$" a few days ago. Being petty and nasty just isn't my thing, so I replied to his email nearly a day later and simply said 23.

He should be able to figure out how to call the eye doctor on his own. Where the heck does he think his contacts come from? lol

He better realize he has other bills to pay, because I'm not doing it for him.

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He better realize he has other bills to pay, because I'm not doing it for him.


Just make sure those bills don't affect you in anyway if they don't get paid. You have to take care of yourself.

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Nope, they don't. I already checked into it. He has no idea what he is supposed to pay. I did all of that stuff for him.

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This is probably just the "Do The Right Thing" in me speaking. But I would probably send him a list of what bills he is responsible for. That way he can't come back to you and blame you for something he didn't pay if he was made aware of his bills.

Just a thought.

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Seriously?! I realize he hasn't been responsible for anything in the last 13 years, but why do I need to remind him to pay his car insurance, cell phone, etc. He drives daily and uses the phone. Surely he must know they need to be paid.

If he asks, I'll give him the dates, log-ins, passwords, etc. But I don't think I'll remind him without being asked.

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Is he a child or is he an adult? If he is an adult he needs to learn that stuff just does not automagically happen. Best way he learns that is to fail. Let him fail.

That is the right thing to do. He needs to put away the toys and put his big boy hat on now and start acting like an adult for a change.

He has gotten away with too much IMHO.

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I agree, Cutter. He does need to act like an adult. He has NEVER acted like an adult. He is really in for a rude awakening.

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