Well those both are depressing answers. She asked if we could continue the counseling when we separated on Saturday, saying "Don't you think it's a good idea?" For me, I have no idea how to be chipper and upbeat during that session. She's going to be dropping the bomb on the therapist, whom she's been lying to also.
What do I do, then? If we end couples counseling because she isn't willing to give up her lover, how does that help? And, I don't see how I can apply DB tactics in that session coming up on Thursday. Do I just not react? I don't want her to see me upset.
Perhaps I call the therapist ahead of time tomorrow and warn him and ask him to stay solution focused?
Ugh. I'm doing ok with the separation, enjoying my quiet time, but the coming session on Thursday feels like a potential backslide opportunity.
