Gnosis, I didn't mean to hi-jack your thread at all. So my apologies in advance. Thank you for your advice as I very much appreciate it & could really use any and all of it.
Gosh, reading all of that is weird. I suppose I do hold some keys though it doesn't feel like it. Have been so depressed since I moved. (See, it's possible for WAWs to feel beat down) & like the world is collapsing all over them.) Actually saw him over the weekend and we had a pleasant time and he didn't once bring up the house title. He's from Portugal, btw.
I never have been back to my house, though one night after dinner he invited me over and I said no because I'm not comfortable w/ that idea and what transpired after I moved.
And I'm not a saint in all of this either so like others have said, I do'nt want to paint him as the All Bad Guy. I am with faults, too.
I just did something that I find quite amusing. I'm not posting on my thread for fear of hundreds of opportunities for input. You seem to have a good gauge re: MY H triggers...
So, I just ordered a vibrator online. He will see the charge. He will ask or make a comment. What is my appropriate reply abd/or comment? LoL
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I didn't mean to hi-jack your thread at all. So my apologies in advance.
Be my guest. I posted my response here because I thought it could help some others too.
Originally Posted By: soleil
Gosh, reading all of that is weird. I suppose I do hold some keys though it doesn't feel like it.
You have the power here. And yes, it feels weird because I'm looking at this from an objective perspective. You've been in the forest too long and can't tell the difference between the trees.
Originally Posted By: soleil
Have been so depressed since I moved. (See, it's possible for WAWs to feel beat down) & like the world is collapsing all over them.)
I hear you and believe you. It's time to pick yourself up and show all of us the strong woman we know you are.
Originally Posted By: soleil
He's from Portugal
Then send him back to the Algarve so he can resume his player ways with the tourists.
Originally Posted By: soleil
I never have been back to my house, though one night after dinner he invited me over and I said no because I'm not comfortable w/ that idea and what transpired after I moved.
Good for you. That shows me you have dignity.
Originally Posted By: soleil
And I'm not a saint in all of this either
None of us are. We've all made mistakes. Even the saints as far as I know.
Originally Posted By: soleil
All of this is quite maddening.
Yes, sadly it is.
--------------- So, nothing to be sorry about. We're all here to help each other. If I can help and have the time I'm always willing to do it.
I just did something that I find quite amusing. I'm not posting on my thread for fear of hundreds of opportunities for input. You seem to have a good gauge re: MY H triggers...
So, I just ordered a vibrator online. He will see the charge. He will ask or make a comment. What is my appropriate reply abd/or comment? LoL
You do know that G is a salesman for that company, he just got you to boost sales & profit and he earned a commission for that also ;-)
I'm not posting on my thread for fear of hundreds of opportunities for input.
I have no problem with that. My thread is a quiet corner of the world, you're welcome to post here.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
So, I just ordered a ......... online.
You are WAY TOO COOL! ROFLMAO.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
He will see the charge.
Sorry to burst your bubble M, he'll see A charge. There will be no description because most of these companies kind of practice "discretion" with items of that variety.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
He will ask or make a comment. What is my appropriate reply and/or comment?
Continuing on my assumption that the item is not described on the bill...
H: I see a charge here for $XX.XX from Mel's Accessories. What did you get? M: I got myself a little something for Xmas. H: Oh? What did you get? M: Something...
Then change the subject or walk away. Leave him curious. Refuse to answer.
When the toy comes... leave it somewhere he'll stumble across it. DON'T be too obvious! He won't make a comment or say anything. Only when you are certain he's seen it... can you become a little more obvious and conspicuous. Like leaving the cables on the nightstand...
When he asks you about it: H: I see you have a toy... M: Uh huh. What about it? H: Well... M: What? H: Ahem... M: It's a cheap replacement for my immediate needs. For how long... we'll see... before I go for the real thing.
Well, kind of along those lines... i.e. even a DAM will know what that means.
OK, now to get something off my chest... this is a good a place as any. M, I know you're feeling playful and need to get your rocks off, but, please, DON'T get your hopes up. Right now he's concerned about your health and heart problems. He will not initiate or respond to intimacy because of them. No man will want to jump his W's bones for fear of her flat-lining in the middle of the act. As much as you want it, he might not even be able to get it up due to his concern for your well-being. I'm sorry M.
You do know that G is a salesman for that company, he just got you to boost sales & profit and he earned a commission for that also ;-)
Darn it Rob! You just couldn't keep you mouth shut could ya?
Disclaimer: I am in no way affiliated with Dr Gno's Pleasure Palace. I do not receive any monetary benefit from sale of these products. The only compensation received are the satisfaction of hearing people scream.
You do know that G is a salesman for that company, he just got you to boost sales & profit and he earned a commission for that also ;-)(just kidding.... maybe)
Rob... I sell for a living. Just helpin' a bro make his quota!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
G - You are priceless. And, somehow I knew you'd appreciate this! (Thanks for letting me use your thread, for fear of cheapening mine! LOLOL)
LOVELOVELOVE the conversational input. Filed it away for future use.
He WILL ask about a charge. He's a little more careful w/our cc bills now since D18 used MY card at Xxxxxx TATTOO's!!! (H asks, "MF, did YOU get a TATTOO?")
So, anyways, he is a tad more careful on the charges. Oh, and, just so you don't think I'm a total BLONDE! I called ahead. MF... "So, IF I were to order a special item... what will the cc charge say?" Answer: "Naughty or Nice."
He'll know something's up. And, can I just say, this is TOTALLY against my character, and darnnit, I LIKE it! LoL
Somethin' tells me I'll like my purchase if H is interested in it OR NOT!
G, don't worry about me getting my hopes up. Not a lot has changed. Certainly not anything to be fawning over. The reality is I'm getting a lot better at detaching. (I hardly ever initiate a call. He does.) I'm making home a really nice place to be. And, if he wants to get a little snarky w/me, he's getting a different type of response... typically a little playful, calling him on it kind of response.
For now, it's working.
Oh, and I don't need H to get my rocks off. I just need a delivery!
THANKS AGAIN GGGG Oh Man of G's!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.