Spouse Suffering From Depression

[awest1217]

You are absolutely correct. Sometimes it takes a 3rd party for H to see what is really wrong with him. He knows you care about him and that his family does, but you are family and it is hard to change when family is telling you, but when a 3rd party who really doesn't know you well is also confirming what your family is saying, it is a little harder to ignore. It is good to hear you are going to give him some time to ponder the results. He may need a few days or a week to decide to do something, or it may take that long to get in to see a counselor. It is also good that you are waiting until after the holidays. If H spends time with his family, and you and S, maybe that will help him to want to get help. Seeing how much everyone cares about him may just help him get the push he needs because he will be reminded that you are all there to support him. Either way, try to stay positive that something good will come of this.

If nothing else, you have definitely grown a lot in the past few months and are a lot stronger. Now you know what you want and what you are willing to put up with. You can truly go in with an ultimatum and mean it, which will make H think if nothing else.

Have a great night!