What to do if WAW is still deciding to walk-away?

[lynn97]

You are paying attention to her by listening to her.

Cling - You're right. I need to me more distant. I think I'll go out for a beer with the guys tonight. I need a break.

PDT - As for verification I can't be sure. I do know where she is going. I know who it is with as I've met him - online anyway. She has been upfront with they're conversations. They are in her words "best friends". All of her family and our friends know about this relationship. Also he is young (in his early 20's) and his parents are coming along to meet my wife too. I agree it's blind trust and I don't like it, but that's something my wife doesn't believe I can do. One of her biggest complaints about me is my need to control her.

Robx - Thanks for the 2x4 you really are great at those. I have been at this a long time. But I've only been doing it to win my wife back and not to fix MYSELF. That is what I'm changing this time. I like your quote, I'm going to work on a way to say something similar in my own words before she leaves. I will ask her to be transparent and send pictures and everything.

Tell her that's what you want and if she can't do that then you can't live in limbo anymore and it's time for her to leave

Is this wise to do at the state we are in? Shouldn't I avoid R talks? Isn't this forcing her hand and trying to control her or the situation again?

Thanks for everyone's input. I really appreciate it. I tend to over analyze stuff so much that I lose sight of the issue altogether.

Lynn