I know you and I will disagree on the spouse of OM. I'm just trying to fully detach from her at this time. I've worked through my issue with it.
What I'm working on is trying to become a compassionate and selfless person to people I come into contact with. Trying to see the POV's of others. That is what I need help on learning to truly be compassionate, and selfless. Not in a door mat way.
And getting back her respect. And that is with setting boundaries and keeping them. I'm doing that. Also trying to add that mystery and just really working on making myself happy.
I need to re-read DR again. Always helps me when I read a book the second time - to really understand it.
