What to do if WAW is still deciding to walk-away?

[lynn97]

So I've been pouring over this one for awhile and was hoping to get some advice from the experts here. Right now my wife is in the midst of "deciding" if she wants to make it work. We are still together, in the same bed, etc. Some days she is distant and displays signs of being in a MLC type fog others she is attentive and even affectionate toward me. So basically we're in this in-between state and I'm not sure which DB technique I should be following.

So far I've started doing many 180's including listening to her more without interrupting, giving her space, etc. I have also started GAL and stopped R talks (well mostly, this one is hard for me).

My main question is about pursuing vs. romancing. I know I need to stop pursuing her and give her space. But I'm wondering if she is at more of a point where she wants me to pay more attention to her, or spend more time with her. Is there some in between? Is there a good way to ask her? Should I even ask or wait until she brings it up?

Hoping you guys have some advice. Thanks.

Lynn