25..thank you. Very good post and you are right too. The cycle has been a long one and very repetative.

I have been thinking about what to do. Do I just go back to ignoring him or do I ask him upfront "wtf is going on? What are your intentions? How committed are you and how can you prove it?"

See...what I guess I am afraid of is by pushing with those questions he will get defensive and back off. Then again, if he does then it shows what his intentions are doesn't it? He runs. Always has. Things get hard, he feels smothered, or someone pushes him into a corner he will run.

By him saying "I want to do more things with you and baby and see where it goes" leaves it so in limbo.

Another statement he loves to use is I always make him out to be the bad one in the M that I obviously did things to contribute. Funny thing is I have never said I was perfect.

So, how do you ask him to step up without it looking like an ulitmatum or a control thing?

Me: 46 FWS: 36
Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07
Baby Girl born 3/08
Kicked him out because OW: 7/08
5/10 He realized what he had and lost.
Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!