You make her the villian of your life and of your girls' lives
by making her the villian you give her loads of power
you can listen but it feels like you almost enjoy the connection that this commiserating brings
dangerous road you are not their friend you are their dad
encourage them to talk to their mom about the issues they have with their mom
because I am sure there are issues they have with you that they don't talk to you about but that they talk to their mom about
the only hero and the only villian in your story
should be yourself
Kudos for a well written piece, as were so many, e.g., Ian's and Kerry's....you are getting good advice from men here Frank. Listen to them. They've been where you are now but they got better.
Also, "Victory" in these situations is not determined by how happy or miserable your xw is, but how you are doing. And only you control that. Remember this. Plan for the holidays and the rest of your life now.
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
