Almost forgot to add. It was mentioned by my friend here that she is still complaining about my no contact. She does not understand why I will not talk to her and she thinks it is very childish and it frustrates her why I will not ever contact her or reply back to her emails or phone calls.
Almost forgot to add. It was mentioned by my friend here that she is still complaining about my no contact. She does not understand why I will not talk to her and she thinks it is very childish and it frustrates her why I will not ever contact her or reply back to her emails or phone calls.
Well, you've been busy... right?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Almost forgot to add. It was mentioned by my friend here that she is still complaining about my no contact. She does not understand why I will not talk to her and she thinks it is very childish and it frustrates her why I will not ever contact her or reply back to her emails or phone calls.
Well, you've been busy... right?
Heh!!!! Correct Trent.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Hi, Cutter bug, just wanted to let you know that I found your thread/(life) and finished it from beginning to end! You were so smart to set lots of goals for yourself to get through this!
I am confused about something--did the two of you sign the separation papers yet? Are you required to separate before divorce? Do you want a divorce? I just ask because I think one of your posts said you were ready to be a WAS now. (But I know the roller coaster!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Papers have not been signed. But they are written out and agreed on. The IM has had a few life issues to deal with and I am taking things super slow. If she wants this quicker she can put the effort in. Which she has not. I think she thinks I will just do all the work. All she has to do is send me 1 piece of paper. The only effort I have seen her make is asking for her birth cert. so she can unassume my name and move out her clothes and shoes.
No effort at all.
Where I live you can wait one year for divorce or get it quicker if you proove adultry or abuse. I am going to let her serve me the papers.
Do I want a divorce.
Sigh. No. But she is gone. Life moves on.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
You are doing the LRT very well, although I know everyone is telling you that. It's been 6 months right? It ain't over til it's over....
Now how do you know that she needs her birth cert for that reason ? sorry, I went through your thread but couldn't find anything you said about it other than you gave it to her dad.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Timeline EA July PA Aug 7th 10 Anneversary Aug 14th ILYBDLY Aug 21st D-day Aug 24th Plan A Aug 21st to Sept 12 Kicked her out of the house Sept 14 She left Sept 17th ( had to hear her talk to him and say his name. Found out I had balls that night ) Plan B Sept 22nd
Heh every time i see LRT I think Light Rapid Transit...
As for the Birth cert. I looked it up.
My deadline is April 2010. 1 month for every year. But at times I say why bother. Do I want to spend the effort to be with this woman again? I would like to have a family. I have a chance to do that. Being a father would be a wonderful life. Also I do not like the person she has changed into. Affair aside. She became very selfish and materialistic. We worked hard and saved away. And were so close to our financial goals. She saw a quick jump here and took it. OP comes from a rich background. I truelly believe she thought she would be the mother of OP's kids as well. All our friends had babies the last 5 years and we could not. So something snapped inside her. And this bizzaro reality formed inside her mind.
I was smart enough to step outside of it. I truelly believe she would have dragged me along to keep getting those giving emotional needs off me. But like I said. I forced her into her reality. Because I wanted no part of it.
No matter what the outcome of her life is. I hope she works herself out of this stage and goes back to the loving and caring person she was all her life.
I think the affair will end in Feburary or March time frame.
I sell the house in April and get my new place. Give her the money from the house and savings then.
Then she will show up one day. And I will say no. Its too late. Too much was done.
I debate with myself if I ever want to shine the light her way to let her know the door has not completely closed.
OK Cutter...if too much has been done, then why not divorce? Why do you want her to file first? I am asking out of sincerity.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
