Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Thanks Grace and TF.
I met with the marriage counselor today, kind of just to wrap things up since H cancelled our last session with him. He was surprised H had decided to move out and divorce-sort of. He felt that H has been conflicted and may need to sort things out and spin on his own.

He said that he thought H trusted me alot and the complaints that H had with me/our relationship were pretty small and not something to D over. He understood that H may very well have revised history in order to justify his decision to leave..or else he's been pretending that things were good for a long time before he admitted they weren't 'ever' good...No way to know.
The therapist thought that its very possible that H will change his mind before the D is ever final. He sensed alot of conflict and indecisiveness in H.
The therapist thought it made sense that H would have stress, make a decision(any decision) which would alleviate that stress and start talking to me more(like the few days before he moved out)...but I think the stress will build again.

It was a good session. H has been continuing to contact me about the girls schedules/xmas presents. He wants to sit with me and D12 tonight at D14's band concert-seemed surprised when I asked him if I should save a seat. I told him I didn't want to assume anything.

H's SIL is still reaching out to me and I guess H's brother is really saddened by this development(H moving out)..as he worked out his marriage a few years ago with SIL. H's parents are depressed by this news but haven't contacted me or the girls.

We'll see how things go. I'm pretty wiped out by all of this and trying to keep my head in a good space.