Good job being prepared, Maple, even tho you knew it might be something you didn't want to see. The guy who mentored me thru my sitch used to say that waywards instantly lose 30 IQ points when they begin their affairs. I believe it.
Puppy
Puppy, I just wish I was more focused when I had the opportunity. Like checking date/time on a couple of the texts. But I just wanted to look as quickly and see as much as I could as I did not know how much longer he was going to be in the shower. Plus my hands were shaking like crazy.
I understand. I had the EXACT same thing happen to me! My heart was beating thru my chest practically, and my hands were shaking!!
One important note here, MapleGal: do NOT, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, reveal to your husband your source of intel!!
It can work to your strong advantage that he doesn't know what you know, and he doesn't know what you DON'T know . . . ya know??? If/when you decide to confront him, a blanket "Oh, I know all about you and ________ . How incredibly disrespectful to me, to our marriage and to our family."
Think about that for a few minutes: he knows that you know, but he doesn't know WHAT you know. It's a distinct moment of power, in an often powerless situation.
If/when you decide to confront him, a blanket "Oh, I know all about you and ________ . How incredibly disrespectful to me, to our marriage and to our family."
