Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Ravenly, thank you for your opinion! I know it's crazy that I am doubting doing something that every person tells me I should do. Seriously, only 3 people on the internet have doubted this decision. My family, friends and in laws say to do it--the same people who support my decision to stay in the marriage.

The reason I still question it is because I am scared it will make him think I do want the D now and he should let me go.I guess he would at least discuss it with me first, right?

I guess it is necessary. It's like the game playing we do when dating (at first). Oh isn't human psychology fascinating?

BTW The new memories with the OW have 5 years of tradition to compete against. And who are they celebrating with? Her enabling family? Not his!