my W doesn't regret her affair

[BeingMe]

I can just continue along the path I'm on, stay extremely distant, pursue the separation, and see if she reaches back to me.

Do this! It seems as if she is the one whose emotions chop and change each time you communicate. No matter whether there was a tinge of revenge --- it's done now, so DO NOT back off.

Whack, whack, whack --- for even thinking of being passive again. If she wanted to get back with you, she would've let you know the A was over before having you request it. That would've been a huge indication that she wanted to get back together. But, now she feels she was 'forced'. It's gonna take awhile before she thinks of you romantically again, I think.

Stick to your plan, or just get yourself castrated and hand the result in a pretty box, as a parting gift to your W for Christmas.

Sorry, that's how I see it, and it makes me mad when you are so obviously manipulated, but maybe you're too close to the sitch and don't see it for what it is.