I am also going to stop talking about the sitch w/ everyone. It is not healthy and now almost everyone thinks I should just move on, as in give up. I will have to come here from now on to sound off. It is amazing to me that so many people think that you should give up on 16 years of marriage after 7 months of turmoil, I know it has been longer for my W but I hope that one day she will appreciate my dedication.
This is identical to my sitch. Everybody is is wanting me to move on and forget about it - it kind of irritates me a LOT. I have only 3.5 years of M behind me.
Michelle does say in DR, and devotes a number of pages to it, about relatives and friends who advise you to give up and D but it's because they are hurting because you are hurting. They want the hurt to stop for you AND them and the best way they can see that happening is for you to D. As you've seen, be wary of relatives and friends with your 'best interests at heart'.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
