Once she gets the space and freedom she's aiming for, she'll realize it ain't all it's cracked up to be. Her fantasy world will crack. And all of a sudden she'll have to deal with stuff.
It's a long process.
Just focus on you in the meanwhile. Take care of you and the kids. And let reality hit her hard.
A side note, the more time she spends with OM, the faster it will fizzle 99.999% of cases. That can actually speed up the process of reality bursting in on her fantasy.
Regardless of whether you decide to R if she comes running back when that happens, the faster she comes back to reality the easier co-parenting will be. Your goal is to take care of you and the kids, and having kids together means she will always be a part of your life.
Will confronting her about OM be a dose of reality for her? Will outing them be a dose of reality? It depends. It depends on her, the situation with OM, whether he'll care if he's exposed, etc. Lots of factors, including the personalities involved. And keep in mind, she doesn't have an adult personality right now, she is in out-of-control teenage mode.
What strategy will get you where you need to be?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
