Sol, I had a look at your sitch a while ago. I can tell you one thing, as you get older you get smarter... The external features start fading and you start looking for substance beneath the surface. From what you describe your H seems like a shallow man. If I was you I'd start creating crisis in his life. Shake the tree.
Note 1: Luv and Mindfull... this advice does NOT apply to you. Note 2: Luv, I've given you enough of a break... time to pick up the slack.
