Sol, I had a look at your sitch a while ago. I can tell you one thing, as you get older you get smarter... The external features start fading and you start looking for substance beneath the surface. From what you describe your H seems like a shallow man. If I was you I'd start creating crisis in his life. Shake the tree.
Note 1: Luv and Mindfull... this advice does NOT apply to you. Note 2: Luv, I've given you enough of a break... time to pick up the slack.
Oh, and G... your wife is a louse if she wants to bash YOUR head in. Tell her I said so.
M, I shouldn't paint her as a bad person. Don't think I'm defending her because she has her reasons too. But thanks for the support!
Originally Posted By: luvless
I agree with Mind - Mrs G needs to know!
Um... did I mention that my Venusian translator constantly malfunctions? I have told her a few times... it doesn't sink in or that piece of machinery is broadcasting the wrong message!
Actually I'd like to believe that she chooses NOT to listen. Um... like someone else here...
I'm in w/the boob man. (I'll implement this today.)
Cool.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Sol... I don't need kleenex. I need a crane!
ROFL.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
G - I like the explanation re: attraction switches.
Glad it helped.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
So, H is attracted to breasts and humor. So, I will go hunting for some boob jokes.
I knew you were smoooooth! And cunning! Very nice. Reminds me of the "Don't think of an elephant" analogy. Couldn't help but think of one could you?
Ladies, thanks coaxing me out of my cave with your humor. Here's one more tip for y'all... It's a crude joke and I bet almost 95% of men have heard it before. In every bit of humor lies and element of truth.
A man marries a woman and she becomes his W.I.F.E. An old joke says that the acronym stands for: Washing, Ironing, F'g, Etc... One day after some years pass the man looks at his W.I.F.E. and discovers new meaning behind the acronym: Worrying, Irate, Facetious, Excruciating. He's shocked at first, then as time goes by he starts shutting down and pulling away. The woman sees his lack of interest and doesn't know what to do. She goes to her mother and asks how she managed to stay married to her father for so long. Her mother replied, "We had a bad patch around the same time as you and this is what my mother told me, to keep your man interested you have to be his W.I.F.E." What do you mean the woman asked. Her mother replied, "Wonderful, Interesting, Fantastic and a little Elusive."
Thanks soo much for this advice but exactly how can I do this?
You've got the keys. Forgive me if I've got the wrong story here. If I remember correctly, he doesn't want you. Threatens you. Forces you out of the marital home and is currently pressuring you into signing the papers... Is this you?
I'm referring to this:
Originally Posted By: soleil
<snip> He also changed the locks on me the day I moved out, told me he'd laugh if I tried to go back. I never have. When he was throwing out all my belongings on the front lawn, my sis was actually standing there. When he finished he said, Now it's done."
Is this the kind of man you WANT to be married to?
I know you say this:
Originally Posted By: soleil
He was NOT this way when I met him, in fact he was so charming i remember saying to him, This is too good to be true.
Of course he was charming. And unfortunately it turned out to be too good to be true.
Here's why he was prince Charming:
Originally Posted By: soleil
Another thing is my H was in the US on a visa when we met. We married and he got a conditional green card.
You asked me how you can create a crisis... here's your answer:
Originally Posted By: soleil
This ends in April of next year. This is a sensitive subject for him and if I so much as bring it up he gets very angry with me. We were fighting once and he asked if I thought he'd only used me for a Gcard and I told him, yeah maybe you did. He was sooo upset & started crying and flung a cigarette off our deck and left.
Sol, you deserve SO MUCH better than him and I believe you CAN DO better. Screw him. He's not a man.
