Gotta Keep Trying 2

[mishka422]

Gima,

MC is just that - MARRIAGE COUNSELING. FC - family counseling is what she is looking for. Big difference. As Thinker (or maybe it was another poster - sorry) said, co-parenting training needs to take place after the mediation and child sharing is set up, not before. There is too much hostility involved in D to try to mesh co-parenting in at the same time.

I completely agree that your W is the one to have to tell the children that SHE has decided that she doesn't want to be M'd to you anymore. Her decision, her responsibility. Yes, you should definitely be present. I made my xh do the same thing. He didn't like it one bit, but did it. It was very ugly because he was in the midst of packing his things and taking them to the car at the same time. ICK!

So, did you ask her when she is moving out? You know that is a consequence of her actions too, right? Does she? She wants out of the M, she can certainly get out of the marital abode too.

Ok, that was harsh, but real. Sorry. I wish nothing but the best for you. You have really done everything you possibly could, now you can step forward with you head held high knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that you have improved yourself and you life even though your M was crumbling around you.

((((((GIMA))))))