Well firstly, my wife isn't very forthcomming with her emotions. It seemed to almost happen overnight. We had our ups and downs as most marriages do, but I didn't dream she would just end it.
She kept asking me for space in the begining and me being an idiot couldn't give her the space she needed. We wern't fighting a lot, but there was tension - I could feel that something had changed in her in the weeks leading up to the split.
She never really gave me a chance to rectify anything, but when we first split we got back together after a few days and I was walking on eggshells the whole time because I felt she was a timebomb waiting to go off. We broke up that night after having an argument over nothing. We had a few friends around and she was sat next to me getting more drunk and louder and louder. I said half in jest that she was giving me a headache, then it all went up in the air. Apparantly I embaressed her infront of everyone etc, but nobody else even heared me say it. It was just an excuse I think.
Anyway, I have learned a lot over the past 6 months, but I cannot show her as we are NC at the moment. She would resist anu attempts by me to talk with here over anything other than the kids, and even that would only be via text message.