#67 Cant find my "pieces"

[sandycay]

Hi K,

I believe it is possible to get past an A in a marriage. I did it. I too had intimate knowledge (thank you Skype history) of thiings they did together.

I had to seperate it. Now, my story doesn't end in reconcillation... but I am saying that I did get over it. If H had kept doing the work it would have been fine. But my H is not done driving the crazy train (MLC) so it was time to for me to get off.

Everyone makes a mistake in life... not everyone deserves another chance. I felt my H did so I gave it to him. I battle the ghost of the OW for awhile but had to let her go. It was hard and she may be back for all I know but I never regret giving it a 2nd shot. I now know there is nothing I can do to save my marriage. It takes two, not one. My H is not the one anynmore.

I see some inconsistent signs from your H and you as well. Your both so that is confusing to both of you. My H and I never had the sexual intimacy problem that you are having so I have no advice there. It did get in my head a time or two during and that was ok and we worked thru it. But then I would be ok for awhile.

I see some good things and bad things ... you have to make up YOUR mind if you want to pursue this. Get off the fence one way or the other.. It's not healthy for you. This has been going on for months with this last issue. Time to push the issue.. especially with the passwords and such.

I pray for your family K, I pray it works out for the best for all of you.