That is the exact reason that I feel finding a good divorce attny is so crucial. I felt such relief after I left that first meeting I almost wept in the parking lot. I finally felt like I had somebody on my side to deal with my H's crap and the burden was lifted from me.
My attny was a true gentleman, very kind, very soft spoken and an all around good guy. He is a well known and well respected attny among his peers and the court officers. For a brief blip in time I almost thought he was too nice and I worried what would happen in court as my H had a dirty snake of an attny. The moment my attny and I walked into the courthouse ALL those fears evaporated because he turned into exactly what I hoped he would... firm, impressive yet still a gentleman. When he walked into that courtroom he simply commanded respect and it was clear he would not listen to one second of BS. He protected me like I was his own kid!
Just remember you are interviewing this attny and there is no harm in talking to a few different firms to find the best fit for you. I chose my attny based on his record against the attny my H hired, the firms general reputation, client reviews I read online and the general feel I got during that first meeting. Had I felt even a tiny bit "off" I would not have retained them.
One thing I can share is if you do opt to retain the attny you are meeting with, you will feel such a sense of relief that you have a "helper" that alone will be empowering.
