Answers to your questions. Sorry for the shortness of my answers.
Were your wife not aware of you being WAH 2 years ago? No.
Did you just used work as an excuse and kept in touch with her as everything was ok between you? Yes. Because I needed to think things through without interference.
Did you return home from "work travel" and everything was as usual? Not exactly. Friends lent me the use of their holiday home while I was in the foreign country. I made a halfhearted attempt to find work but spent most of my time indoors vegetating and waiting for my mind to start working.
What changed for you and for her at that point? She did. I kept the phone calls short. In the beginning all she wanted to know was whether I had found a job and then would complain about anything... and I mean ANYTHING. Only after that did she start with the "I miss you's" and "ILY's". THAT'S what changed.
I brought her over and politely told her to quit whining and enjoy the time together as a second honeymoon. I needed to see if there was still a spark there. There was. A few weeks after she left I returned home. Delay was due to flight availability.
Did you feel that your wife was bringing you down talking about her great family, being down about IVF results? Bringing me down? No. Felt misled? Yes. IVF had no bearing on this.
Why did you come back? Answered before.
Did your wife wanted your emotional support all the time? Not really sure. It was such a long time ago and I was self-absorbed at the time.
Did you feel like running away? Depends on how you look at it. I needed to clear my mind and take myself out of the forest so I could think objectively. Did I want a D? I don't think so. It did cross my mind though. If you're implying abandonment, then NO. It did not enter my mind to abandon her.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Flipping her attraction switches? LoL Can I borrow a few of those?
Is that something along Gucci's preaching? Not what I had in mind. Jealousy is used to generate fear-of-loss and shake the WAS out of the fog. Its success depends on how far the WAS is gone. In my books that's completely different to creating attraction.
I've been thinking about this lately. As long as there is attraction, there is a relationship. Do you guys agree or disagree? I disagree. Just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean there is a relationship. E.g. Movie stars and their fans. Attraction is a pre-cursor to connection. The connection is the soil in which the seeds of a relationship grow.
