Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[Serenity13]

Jan~

I haven't posted here but I have been following your thread. I came in to second what ShockedOne said...I have never in the 22 years I have known my H been subject to any kind of selfishness from him - Now it is all about him and his wants & his needs and f**k everyone else...

You need to separate your finances from his otherwise he will most likely clean you out - Take this advice before it happens because trust me when I say it isn't a pleasent place to be put into...

You may go to the bank next week needing something for your kids or yourself and find out your H has taken everything and left you maybe 10 bucks if you are lucky.

It's like the rules continue to not apply to him

This is where boundaries come into play - If he doesn't like the boundaries and won't follow them, then you need to have firm consequences established and you need to follow through with them.