I am so sorry, Norm. I think many of us can relate to the intense pain, shock and overall craziness that we feel when we learn that our spouse is embroiled in an affair.
The pain is intense. We may disagree on how to handle the affair or have our own reasons for handling things the way we did but the common thread for all of us is the pain.
Take a day or two and let this all sink in. Reacting on emotion will only cause more problems. Put yourself first.
This will continue to consume you until you make the decision to not allow it to consume you. It is overwhelming, I understand. Right now, right this very second can you do something for five minutes that is more productive than thinking about your W and the affair? Don't worry about the whole day or even an hour. Right now think about the next five minutes. How about a brisk walk or run with music you love?
Many of us here understand the pain you feel. I am so sorry you have to experience it. We will be here to help you.
