In the sitches I am thinking about, there is not an active affair, but I agree that there is probably a lot of guilt.
It's almost like they want the C and the LBS to tell them "You are right, this M is horrible and it is not at all your fault. It will indeed never change. In fact, it's so bad and so completely not your fault the LBS should should just shoulder all of the blame and the work of the D so that you can finally be happy"
Now that is a bit unfair and definitely tongue-in-cheek, but I do think a big part of it is them looking for validation of their general feelings of unhappiness, resentment, dissatisfaction, etc.
It still astounds me a bit. I keep thinking "If you want to leave, then leave! Start the D process! Why the MC?"
Last edited by Thinker; 12/08/0903:42 PM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
