Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Your 12 year old son...man that OM was a smart muther...crafty. Be the best dad that you can be. Your relationship with their mother is just as important as your relationship with them. And a good mother is going to find that just as attractive as her favorite colonge on you.

Nah, OM is not "crafty" at all. S12, whom I adopted was severly abused at only 8 weeks old and suffered significant brain damage. He is 'developmentaly challanged' but has beaten all the odds and surpassed all clinical expectations. However, he is always excited with something or especially someone new. So, when OM was just dropped in to "my place" in his life full time, S12 just wanted OM to accept him and be his 'buddy', he doesn't know better. S11, on the other hand, gave OM hell, good for him.

Anyway, the house. Why wouldn't you want to skim through the posts?

Long story short, like many stories here, we bought when the market was unbelievbaly great in 2004. Mainly, to get the kids (S12 mostly) into superior schools and to be closer to the in-laws as MIL was battling cancer and we were constantly driving back and forth on a daily basis. My (then) FIL put the mortgage in his name since XW and I didn't quite have the most perfect credit in the world. From there, FIL took all the equity out of the home to fix his, figured fair enough for the assistance. However, the repayment of the equity became our problem and boosted the mortgage payments to ridiculous levels out of our financial means. Thus, enter the root of all evil, money.

The whole time and especially in 2006 when MIL lost her battle, the house became nothing but a 'private nightclub' for XW and all her local work friends. Every night was a party. It was an abuse of the intent of the space. XW and I always love to entertain guests, and both shared the desire to own a bar of our own. So, we made use of the full finished basement, and made our own personal bar in it, pool table, darts, games, seperate kitchen you name it, it was there. But, like I said, it was always a party for her and friends.

Much like her cycling every 3-4 months with the MR, she then would cry out for help to curb the parties and share in my displeasure for it as this was a home, not a night club. So she'd have me talk with all her friends and tell them this was insane an dstop coming over so frequently. Of course, a week or so later, XW viewed me carrying HER own request to handle as a means of controlling her and who she hangs out with.

It (the house) was just simply a great thing gone wrong. No, OM and her had no relations there, at least that I know of. That, transpired at her father's house she moved in to upon confirmation of the A. So I won't set foot in that one either. And thus, it's a boundy for me, to not re-enter 'our' home. I may bend on it, I may not. I'm certain that she'll no doubt be having a new years party there and that will be the time I really need to ask myself if I will uphold it.