I agree with what you are saying........but only to a certain point.
I agree with Figgy more ( although she was kinda hard to read, with being all grammatically correct and all :p )
DB'ing is about us being the best we can be , and I know you know this too.
There comes a time through all of this where posting CAN keep the LBS stuck. We look back one day and realize that , not only are we standing, we are standing still. Not moving in any specified direction except the one that keeps us in quicksand.
This doesn't mean that we are necessarily doing that, only that we FEEL that way. And what is in our heads is way different than reality in most cases.
Each of us have walked a very different path together, yet alone -as a good friend told me -( no nickel, credit given):o
Each of us "process" things uniquely, and in our own time.
Each of us eventually lays down the sword in our own way and perserveres on our own course through the trials and tribulations of this crazy life we lead.
Does it make us bad ?
No.....Just real.
NOT posting may actually mean that we are out trying to fullfill our lives with culture, taking chances , doing something new, and thriving-not just surviving.
Eventually, most of us ALL come back here...most with a new outlook on life.
Look at all of the "new" threads from "old" posters recently....(although we like the abuse...????)
There are two ways to let our wayward spouses go.....one is with anger and a FU on the way out....
The second is with Love and understanding...
The second one is why us "old timers" with some sense of self seem to find our way back here. The ones that don't come back ? Well, maybe that is for the best......
Bitterness and anger are not close friends of letting go with love.....
The difference, at least to me, is doing the work........
I, for one, am a work in process, neverending, and striving to be better everyday.
