Slow down...yup. Satin sheets...yup. To do list...yup. A D consult is cheap, and you learn a lot. It does not mean you are divorced. I had two consults before I filed, which I was able to do by myself, with the help of a mediator (they come in quite handy). Full disclosure: I let the case drop but I can always refile if I want. I'm working on Boundaries myself, wanted you to know mediation can work. So can Retrovaille. Not helpful for every sitch. If there is an active 3rd party, they (Retro) need to know. Have you ever done a Marriage Encounter or was your marriage prep done in the Church? Just curious. Hang in there! Peace. p.s. When you are new, you get a lot of advice and sometimes it conflicts, which I remember can be confusing. If someone offers unwelcome advice, a good boundary would be to say, "I'm going to go a different direction. But thanks for thinking of me."
Last edited by goldeylox; 12/08/0902:04 PM. Reason: boundary
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
